Therapy and Treatment for Toxic Relationships
At Lumion, our mission is to offer hope and lasting relief to those who are coping with a toxic relationship and other mental health conditions.
Very few relationships are 100% supportive and fulfilling 100% of the time. There are good times and not so good times, perhaps even some bad times. When the bad times begin to dominate the relationship however, and when the lack of compatibility becomes increasingly obvious and emotionally or physically dangerous, it’s time to ask yourself, “Am I in a toxic relationship?”
A toxic relationship is often characterized by ongoing, mutually destructive modes of relating between partners. Such behaviors can involve jealousy, possessiveness, dominance, manipulation, desperation, selfishness or rejection. However, the most common theme in a toxic relationship involves the partners’ intense draw toward each other, despite the pain they both cause one another.
- Causes – 71% of relationship experts identify poor role models, including parents, as the leading cause of toxic relationship habits, followed by low self-esteem and fear of being open with others.
- Cures – 64% of relationship experts agree that the best way to overcome toxic relationship habits is by replacing them with more positive behaviors and habits, followed by couples’ therapy or individual therapy.
Of course, replacing such deeply ingrained habits and beliefs, often identified as “limiting beliefs”, is not as easy as you might hope. Often, therapy will be required for this step as well; first to identify the limiting beliefs that are causing you grief, then to learn the steps required to replace them with positive, empowering beliefs.
Identifying as the “victim” in a toxic relationship is rarely helpful. Rather, identifying as a partner in the toxicity will begin the process of healing.
How to Identify a Toxic Relationship
We have made great strides in therapy for toxic relationships, using: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Medications, our TMS affiliate experts work with, existential therapy, spiritual therapy, individual therapy, family/relational therapy.
A toxic relationship need not follow a certain pattern, with high drama and regular visits from law enforcement. If you live with a partner who consistently denigrates and regularly “puts you down”, your relationship has likely become toxic.
There are specific, identifiable behaviors that have a toxic effect on relationships:
- Being selfish or demanding, behaving as if you have power over your partner.
- Acting out the role of parent or child, by showing submission or dominance.
- Using emotional coercion or manipulation to get what you want.
- Denying your own or your partner’s separateness or individuality, instead seeking a merged identity.
- Confusing real love with desperation or emotional hunger.
- Refusing to act in kind ways with actions your partner would perceive as loving.
Whether your goal is to repair your relationship, to leave a toxic relationship, or to mourn a lost relationship, the mental health professionals at Lumion offer a team of relationship experts, identity experts, and existential psychologists who will help you find yourself – and work on building a better you.
Located in Beverly Hills, California, the doctors and staff at Lumion Center are experts in behavioral therapy and medication management, offering a supportive therapeutic environment and personalized treatment plan for relationship problems that addresses your unique symptoms, as well as any underlying mental health issues that may be contributing to your condition.
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